This is not the first time CA has attempted to pass this law. As I have stated before, our rights are not written in stone, they are written on paper and we must continually fight for them.

Also, in regards to the comment before mine. I see why they did not leave their name. I would not either if I left such a foolish statement. If you are going to make yourself look like a fool, please stick to comments on subjects you know about. Your comment shows you know very little about raising children …..correctly.

Friday, April 11, 2008 – Anonymous~ Lazy parenting is subjective, as is your definition of abuse

JacqueDixonSoulRestES

I agree that spanking can be abuse. So can feeding your child, speaking to your child, educating your child, medicating your child, having your child do chores, buying them things… do you get the picture??

Do you really want the government telling you that you can’t feed them Lucky Charms or hot dogs? Maybe they will legislate that a child doesn’t need that fourth pair of designer jeans or to go to that snobby uppity private school. Perhaps you will go to jail someday because you swore in front of your child. Or yelled at them. Or read them the Bible. Have you read the Convention on the Rights of a Child??

Is all of this lazy parenting? I would have to say yes, some of it, from my perspective, is. We won’t talk about sending a child to be taught by other teens and strangers whose beliefs one has no idea of is, and whether or not that is abuse.

This is why we have rights in this country. We are innocent until proven guilty. Spanking a child does not mean we are automatically guilty of abuse. What was our country like when parents actually *did* spank their children? Have you ever read about that?

Perhaps you enjoy seeing the school shootings and rapes and murders, hazings and other things that selfish, spoiled rotten, demanding, and lazy children do. I do not. We are raising our children in love. For many parents, spanking is a part of that, just as telling them, "No, you may not do that" is.

I am interested in how you teach a child to stay away from the road. One who is persistent in going to the road. Do you just say, "Well, when you get hit by a car, then you will understand."? Lest you forget, I am a mom of eight children. All children are not compliant, nor do they all give a hoot about time-outs or taking away their favorite toys. Some children need a swift swat to understand that there are consequences to disobedience, before that consequence is being hurt or killed in the road, or being burned on the stove – or burning down their own house. How do you people live?

If you are not someone who adheres to the Bible and its standards, there really is no more discussion here. Actually, if you do adhere to it, there is no more discussion. I mean, really now, God allows bad consequences for disobedience.

Proverbs 13:24
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Hebrews 12:6
For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

You are correct that hitting a child is abuse. Spanking can be abuse. One cannot just label it lazy parenting, because they disagree with it any more than the government should be able to haul good parents off to jail because of it. In many cases, it is not abuse, but loving and proactive teaching to future well-behaved, considerate adults.

Saturday, April 12, 2008 – Spanking

Posted by Faith McJarrow

Dear Jacque

I am South African, but have lived in the UK for 8 years now. Your article was spot on. I could not have put it down so well myself. I homeschool 4 girls as well and take flack for doing it "Spare the rod, spoil the child". Children need boundaries, not freedom to do as they please. As they grow and mature and learn what is right.

Saturday, April 12, 2008 – right with ya!

Posted by Sisterlisa

I can tell you as well, from experience that children MUST have boundaries. My husband is a recovery pastor in a 12 step Christian alcohol and drug center. He teaches a ‘boundaries’ class. We see the product of an undisciplined child every single day. These GROWN men tell us that they WISHED their parents would have lovingly spanked them.

In my opinion, all this started back when mothers left the home to go to work and thought they had a ‘right’ to be successful. They lost sight of the fact that being successful is meant to be in their homes.

Saturday, April 12, 2008 – Untitled Comment

Posted by HeartnSoul

I like your comment Jacque. I would love to see exactly "how they live"… but I bet they really are the lazy ones, expecting (or complying with) the govt. to raise their kids for them. When they end up with bad fruit, that fruit is taken care of for free in prison.